Setting Boundaries in the PP period

Setting boundaries to family especially in PP time

THIS is the reality for the majority of pregnant women and their partners in the modern world. Truly. I work with hundreds of practitioners yearly who work with thousands of pregnant Mothers and families - so I speak from this place of knowing.

Becoming a Mother in her power - is to die a thousand deaths: Die to being the "nice girl." Die to being the family "peacekeeper." Die to caring about peoples judgements about you. 

And so: HOW to step into your roles of Mother and Father within your family constellation, in a way that is honoring to your SELVES, and tactful in your communications: In pregnancy, write an email and / or send a letter to everyone who may be coming to visit you in your postpartum time. Share what you WANT and DON'T WANT.

Don't apologize for your wants within your writing. Be kind, but be direct and clear. Let them mull over this writing of yours and have all their feelings on their own. You are not responsible for their feelings.

Put a sign on your front door once your baby is born. Could be the same writing. Could be a different one.

Get support!!! INNATE Practitioners are there to not only offer postpartum care to families (in a myraid of ways), but ALSO to offer educational support to extended families during the Mother's pregnancy about the postpartum time AND help communicate with your extended family ---- > so that it's not always just between you and them.

Having your partner be involved in communications with the family as well, out of respect to both your and his wishes is also key. Ask him to support you and defend your time / space in this way. Ask him to step in.

Because people will judge and make assumptions no matter what you do - so might as well do what is best for your child and follow your intuition. Hope this helped!